Remembering Noor Faleh Almaleki – a normal American woman

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By AMANDA LEE MYERS (AP)

PEORIA, Ariz. — Noor Faleh Almaleki just wanted to be a normal American woman.

The striking 20-year-old from Iraq, who’d lived in Phoenix since she was a young girl, wanted her hair and makeup to be perfect, her clothes to be fashionable. She wanted a job, a degree and a husband of her choosing.

On her Facebook page, Noor posted photos of herself and wrote: “I am spectacular,” punctuated with a smiley face emoticon.

But Noor’s father had a much different ideal for his daughter: a life in strict line with traditional Iraqi culture.

He made her quit her fast-food restaurant job and arranged for her to marry a man in Iraq she didn’t know, according to friends and family.

Finally, police say, 48-year-old Faleh Hassan Almaleki put an end to what he perceived to be his daughter’s rebellious life. Using his Jeep as a weapon, he allegedly ran her down in a parking lot Oct. 20 in what prosecutors are calling an “honor killing” to cleanse what he considered were indiscretions to the family’s honor.

Noor underwent spinal surgery and was in a coma until her death on Monday. Another woman struck by the Jeep, the mother of Noor’s boyfriend, was expected to survive.

Andregg, a friend for seven years, described Noor as independent, but far from rebellious and always respectful of her parents. She said Noor just wanted to live her own life, but that her father wouldn’t let her.

“His whole persona was very controlling, very strong-minded in the ways he wanted it for her,” Andregg said. “He talked down to her very much, made sure she knew she wasn’t good enough and brought a lot of dishonor to the family.”

Meanwhile, she said, Noor “just wanted to be a normal teenager,” and later, wanted to finish college, marry the man she loved, and have children.

Almaleki, who fled after the attack, was stopped at London’s airport and sent back to the U.S. on Oct. 29. He was on suicide watch in a Phoenix jail and has declined requests for comment. It’s unclear whether he yet has a lawyer.

Noor and her family moved to the U.S. in the mid-1990s and lived in the west Phoenix suburb of Glendale.

In 2008, friends say Almaleki took Noor to Iraq under the guise of visiting family. Actually, he had picked out a husband for her and told her she couldn’t return to Arizona unless she married him. Noor married the man and returned, and friends say he was in the process of trying to move here, too.

But Noor fell in love with another man, friends say, and was living in his home with his mother when she was killed.

About 50 friends and family attended a candlelight vigil Thursday night for Noor in the parking lot where she was run down. Her mother and several others wept as they stood in a circle holding candles, hugging each other and remembering the young woman.

“This was the last place that Noor was herself,” said Andregg, who helped organize the vigil. “It’s a hard place to be, especially for her mom, I know. I just think it was appropriate to be here instead of at a park or a cemetery.”

Despite all her family troubles, Andregg and several other friends say Noor rarely if ever spoke about them.

“She always had a smile on her face,” said Niki Nia, 18, of Scottsdale. “When people weren’t getting along, she would always try to bring peace between them, and I think a lot of that had to do with what was happening at home. She wanted her social life to be peaceful.”

Nia said Noor might be in a better place now. “She never would have been able to escape,” she said.

Jim Heinrich, who was Noor’s yearbook teacher at Dysart High School, said Noor affected many students’ lives.

“One of them told me, ‘We had everything we wanted and she had a lot of difficulties and she never complained.’ She always knew her life would be OK,” Heinrich said. “She was one of those people — it’s like her spirit was bigger than her body. You were just very aware that she was there in a good way.”

Phillip Pimentel, another friend of Noor’s living in Japan, wrote in an e-mail that Noor never spoke to him about her troubles at home.

“What I’ll remember and miss most about her is that she seemed happy,” wrote Pimentel, 21. “Worry-free, full of hopes and dreams of the future. Such a shame that such a good person with so much going for herself was taken at such an early age.”

Noor now has a second Facebook page, started by the people who are mourning her death. More than 1,600 had joined as of Friday.

On the page, underneath a photo of Noor shown with a soft smile and her hair blowing, is a message that reads:

“May Noor Almaleki and all other victims of senseless honor killings rest in peace. And may God be the guardian of others who are in danger of sharing that fate. And may we all do something to end honor killings once and for all.”

13 Responses

  1. I think I need no more convincing as to what Islam is truly is all about after this.

  2. [...] SLAIN FOR ‘HONOUR’: Remembering Noor Faleh Almaleki – a normal American woman …. [...]

  3. Killing your own daughter? I am trying not to throw up right now. Extremeism is literally killing innocent people worldwide. Change the “hearts and minds” in Iraq and Afghanistan? We need to put down the crack pipe and get those troops home. I used to want to deploy but now, I could care less.

  4. It is the evil islam that killed noor almaleki

  5. obviously someone is very ignorant and stupid. “Honor” killings have happened to families in the Middle East and South Asian that are devout Christians and Hindus. No religion accepts this type of monstrous, senseless killing. Do some research on this issue before you embarrass yourself again.

  6. is it the nature of all muslims to protect the killers of their women and children?

    are you ignorant of ‘Umdat al-Salik o1.1-2 ?

    you should be embarrassed for many reasons…

    watch this video where your fellow muslims clearly state the qur’an requires them to conduct honor killings…be embarrassed for them too

    Honor Killings

  7. dear fuck pakistan,
    look, i am a ahmadi girl…
    and to be honest…..honer killings do not exist in islam….it is said that one can not control what their child wants to do….

    the proper thing that the father could have done on the ahmadi muslim basis…
    was to leave it alone…this girl did not accept islam..so leave it….you were brought in this world to worship allah not to hurt people that dont ….

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  9. 99% of all honor killings are in Pakistan, Bangladesh, Turkey, Saudi Arabia, Libya, Morocco, Algeria, Sudan, Egypt, Lebanon, Syria, Indonesia, Gaza, and in 44 other Muslim-majority countries, so yes, honor killings happen all over the world. It is done by fathers and brothers who are Arabs, Turks, Pakistanis, Indonesians and other ethnic groups. However, isn’t it odd that in all the different ethnic groups, and in all the different countries and cultures the majority of those killings are done by Muslims?

    Why is that?

  10. his act was based on culture and moral values not religion. get this right you rasict people.

    • ISLAM is not a race- we are not objecting to this criminal act b/c his skin color ………..

      why do you defend MURDER of a person;s own child?
      what does that make you?
      pro-filicide??

      culture? his culture is defined by ISLAM and ISLAM does indeed prescibe and condone killing one’s own family member for “dishonor” adultery, sex before marriage- in this case all the poor girl did was not dress as her father demanded@!@@@

      you are a sick pervert to defend that

      • Muslims are commanded to use MOHAMMED as example of PERFECTION- here are Mohammed’s actions and dictates

        Sahi Bukhari: 8:6814:
        Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah al-Ansari: “A man from the tribe of Bani Aslam came to Allah’s Messenger [Muhammad] and informed him that he had committed illegal sexual intercourse; and he bore witness four times against himself. Allah’s Messenger ordered him to be stoned to death as he was a married person
        Sahi Muslim No. 4206:
        “A woman came to the prophet and asked for purification by seeking punishment. He told her to go away and seek God’s forgiveness. She persisted four times and admitted she was pregnant. He told her to wait until she had given birth. Then he said that the Muslim community should wait until she had weaned her child. When the day arrived for the child to take solid food, Muhammad handed the child over to the community. And when he had given command over her and she was put in a hole up to her breast, he ordered the people to stone her. Khalid b. al-Walid came forward with a stone which he threw at her head, and when the blood spurted on her face he cursed her.”

        Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol 2. pg 1009; and Sahih Muslim Vol 2. pg 65:
        The verse regarding the stoning of the adulterer/ess was from amongst the verse revealed (in the Quraan). We read it, secured it and understood it. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) stoned and we stoned after him. I fear that with the passage of time a person might say, ‘We do not find mention of stoning in the Book of Allah and thereby go astray by leaving out an obligation revealed by Allah. Verily, the stoning of a adulterer/ress is found in the Quraan and is the truth, if the witnesses are met or there is a pregnancy or confession.”

        The above Quranic verses and authentic sahih hadiths clearly demonstrate beyond doubt that Prophet Muhammad, under Allah’s direction, stoned adulterers to death and flogged fornicators. Allah’s decree/choice of death for fornicators (Quran: 4:15) and flogging adulteress 100 times with no mercy (Quran: 24:2, which also could lead to certain death) has clearly sanctioned/dictated dreadful punishment for sexual intercourse outside marriage. It is from these scriptural divine spirits Iranian fundamentalist Islamic government practices stoning and flogging adulterers even today. The Iranian Supreme Court sanctioned that an adulteress should be buried up to her chest and stoned to death. Mullahs of Iran know the hadiths quite well. This august body is closely following Allah’s prophet. It is also quite prudent to consider that Muslim parents those who are practicing honor killing are directly motivated, or influenced by the above scriptural and historical (Hadiths) support; hence they are able to commit heinous crime called ‘honor killing’ with (almost) impunity, exultantly and with ample satisfaction that they are following the strict Islamic ethical code to guard chastity, as the holy Prophet repeatedly cautioned Muslims so seriously to guard their women’s chastity.

  11. [...] from Iraq. In 2008, Noor’s father told her they were visiting family and took her to Iraq to marry a stranger, disallowing her to return to America without marrying him. Feeling helpless, Noor complied. She [...]

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